I never quite feel at home when non-binary individuals talk about the importance of ‘they’ pronouns and non-binary identity cards. Don’t get me wrong: I totally understand why it matters to them, but it doesn’t feel relevant to my genderqueer identity.
You see, I don’t want to be seen as belonging in some a kind of ‘third box’, an androgynous third genderidentity outside of man and woman. When I speak about being genderqueer I want people to understand that I am all over the fucking spectrum, in every single box, on every team, getting my queer hands on all that gender has to offer.
I feel comfortable with any pronoun because I feel like they all address a partial truth in me. I feel like my gender is man, woman and queer all wrapped into one.
A person who calls me ‘she’ only speaks to one part of my gender, but that feels no different than the way a person who calls me ‘historian’ only speaks of one part of my activities and a person who calls me ‘partner’ only speaks of one part of my relationships to other people. They’re all speaking to one side of me and if they make the mistake of thinking that that side is all of me, well, that’s their loss.
So I use he, she and they pronouns and I don’t correct people because I do not feel like they are ever wrong. Since my gender is limitless, there is a core of truth in every gender people can assume me to be.
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