The more actual age-players I meet, the more I think Tumblr does age-play a huge disservice.
Like, almost all posts you see about age-play focus on some middle-aged man who wants to make actual young girls his ‘little girl’ to control and arbitrarily punish with tons of BDSM shit. Like, man, if I met that dude I’d be grossed out too. Except those dudes mainly seem to be hanging out in the fucked-up rape-culture-loving BDSM scene and the age-players I meet are so completely not into that shit. At all.
The adult babies I meet are just grown up people who love to play with toys and wear colorful clothing and give their childish playful side free range and allow themselves to be vulnerable and emotional and not so responsible for a change. And for many that’s very sexy for them, which is why they call it a kink.
The adult baby sitters I meet are just grown up people who love to take care of other grown ups and treasure their childish, vulnerable side and pamper them with hugs and kisses and safety and allow them to totally let go of real life responsibilities for a moment.
And for many that’s very sexy for them, which is why they call it a kink.
I look at the age players I know and I see warmth and love and cosiness and playfulness and laughter and basicallly they’re massive cuddle bunnies.
For most adult baby sitters I meet, having an actual huge age difference in the relationship would spoil the fun because creating a space where an adult can feel vulnerable and childish is the whole point and for more adult baby sitters I meet, having BDSM and punishment in their play would spoil the fun because making someone feel safe and comfortable is a big part of the point.
Maybe I’ve been lucky in the people I meet. Every community has creeps. Age players who use the words ‘age-play’ as an excuse for seeking out power in real age differences exist. Age players who do BDSM exist, and that creepy dude who wants to control little girls and calls it age play also exists but none of that seems to be representative of the age players that I’ve encountered so far.
So I guess what I’m saying is that if the idea of being childlike and playful and cared for with your partner or being caring and allowing your partner to be childlike seems interesting to you at all, don’t let that Tumblr image of age-play scare you off. You may be missing out on a beautiful thing.
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edit: I got an ask about this which I have answered here. Please read it before sending similar asks.
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