I am taking some time to process THIS ARTICLE THAT I LOVE and THIS ARTICLE and to do so I am making some flowcharts (or whatever you call these). I think they’re far from perfect but they’re helping me digest things. If anyone else has read the article and wants to comment on these things, feel free. If anyone wants to take these and do something else with it, feel free too.

(I realize that there are way more variations of polyamory than can be seen in this flowchart. that is far from relevant here though so I only made the one.)

(I’m still having doubts about whether I should add even more ‘with or withouts’ to the relationship anarchy community bubble because relationship anarchy can be with or without people you call partner, etc etc and I would hate to think that relationship anarchism means you can’t call someone your partner). 

(I am also worried that I am still not being in-your-face obvious enough about the fact that no this is NOT about ‘not labelling your relationships’ it is about rejecting the superiority of romance and sex and not confining the essense of commitment and community only to the people you share a romantic or sexual connection with and in the process making your connection to people one that capitalism can’t market to you.)

(I am also very much aware that my life is far from relationship anarchy right now and that understanding relationship anarchy and practicing relationship anarchy are two very different things. First and foremost because you can only be a relationship anarchist in connection with others that want to have the same kind of connection. Which goes to show once again that anarchist praxis is empty without a community.)