What is probably the biggest seismic shift in my own thinking sparked by relationship anarchy is not about sex or polyamory is that it changed my thinking from 

“I am an anarchist, therefore I am an anarchist in my relationships and when I practice that it makes me a relationship anarchist” 

to 

“I am an anarchist, therefore I should strive to be an anarchist in my all my connections and in how I define, shape and prioritize relationships. That would make me a relationship anarchist.”

Like, looking back at what I wrote in the past, maybe I already half knew that but it’s much clearer to me now.