the fact that moen’s latest manifesto on the sexual dignity of cucking is like 99% uncritically gushing about how enticingly empowering it is to engage in these elaborate fuckrituals of supér masculine humiliation with only this like briefest most off-to-the-side disclaimer note about how the concept of cuckolding miiiiight, sometimes, have some racist connotations is incredible but not surprising
also i love that she thinks anyone using the word “cuck” as an insult is explicitly referring to cuckolding anymore lmao. like… it’s so removed from its original meaning the comic had no point??
She doesn’t seem to get that “cuck” as an insult comes from /pol/ and stormfront users very actively trying to push the idea that white men who support the increasing rights and freedoms of women and people of color would allow their wives to sleep with a black man (they’re nazis so they don’t say “sleep with” or “black man” but I think the point is still clear) just to avoid being called racist or sexist. “Cuck” as an insult is very intentionally and specifically designed to associate progressive politics with the racist paranoia that “black men are trying to steal white women” and the sexist paranoia that “your girlfriend definitely isn’t satisfied with you and wants to cheat, if she isn’t already cheating on you” and really no amount of having a character say “uwu watch out every once in a blue moon the porn might seem racist” can change the fact that both the fetish and the insult are built on a racist trope and intentionally pushed into the public lexicon by neo-nazis
This is all very much going over my head. Can you link me to the source so I can research? I understand that it’s bad, but I don’t know why. I have no idea what “cuck” means, nor do I understand why it has racist connotations.
“Cuck” is short for cuckold. And nowadays it’s used by racists to demean white men. It implies that they are not manly enough to keep their woman, because she would rather fuck a black man. There’s a trend in pornography where a (usually married) white woman, is “taken” by a black man, in front of the shamed/embarrassed white husband.
Obviously I don’t have to explain why everything I just said is disgusting as fuck.
This comic covering the topic of cuckolding ignores ALL OF THAT.
erika moen is the logical endpoint of liberal sex-positivity that absolutely refuses to acknowledge that sex+desires+relationships exist in any greater social context and operates under the false premise that all critiques of the way that sexuality is approached and discussed are inherently reactionary
like, that comic has it all: any critical attitudes towards the development and implications of a kink = kinkshaming! ignoring the way that oppression is enacted through fetishization! all consensual sex is inherently healthy and empowering! total lack of self-awareness! grudging, parenthetical mention of sex work! all open discussions of sex = inherently empowering and educational!
and if you’re listening to anything i’m saying you know this isn’t an anti-kink opinion at all but a call to engage critically with all things and recognize that even the most enthusiastically consensual sexual activities don’t exist in a vacuum apart from systems of oppression
we’ve gazed into the abyss
and the abyss said fuck yeah, i’m proud to be a cuck
Erika Moen is a really vocal part of a very disappointing version of sex positivity that ends critical conversations about ethics and sex instead of starting the conversations. She did the same many times before, for example with the sissification kink, gushing over how great it was and ignoring the huge huge HUGE difference between sexually celebrating your feminine side and treating your feminine side as degrading.
She did the same in the latest ‘cuck’ comic, where she takes cognitive dissonance to a new level by claiming that playing with racism is wrong, but playing with extremely sexist tropes is totally fine and 100% empowering!
It’s really frustrating because sex positivity has the potential to be GREAT, to open up roads to open, shamefree and critical engagement with the way living in an aggressively oppressive society impacts our sexuality and how we can heal from that, but instead this version of sex positivity calls any critical engagement with kink ‘kink shaming’ and shuts down the conversation.
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