Let’s get something clear: TERFS have never been good to trans men.
TERFs have always held trans men hostage.
They accept trans men looking for safety and shelter in feminist spaces as long as those trans men are not too vocal and do not contradict TERFs in any way. The moment trans men speak their mind, support trans women, speak against misgendering or are in any way honest about who they are, TERFs are ready to bully trans men and excile trans men into a hostile world.
To TERFs a silent trans man is a nice tokens for their claim that they’re totally not transphobic. A vocal trans man is just another enemy.
So while it is 100% true that almost all TERF violence is directed at trans women and TERFs are a lot more dangerous to trans women in every way, it is a mistake to speak about TERF dominated spaces that ‘welcome’ trans men or ‘accept’ trans men. That is not welcoming, that is not acceptance. That is a hostage situation.
They see us as ~poor oppressed women suffering from internalised misogyny~ if we’re silent, and they see us as ~aggressive oppressive misogynist men~ if we speak up. Plus they constantly misgender us, talk about our genitals as if they’re public property, and the second you say shit to them, most are perfectly happy to jump down your throat about your appearance. I’ve seen a lot of fetishisation of trans men in TERF lesbian communities as well.
It doesn’t compare to the outright violent aggression trans women face from TERFs, but their microaggressions cause a lot of dysphoria and self-hated.
Yes yes yes. And it comes with a heavy dose of offering someone support first and then turning on them and going: “we are the only people who will ever love and support you if you just admit that you are what we think you are and fight your trans brainwashing, because if you don’t we will hurt you so badly”. It’s a manipulative abusive game.
Which is why I make the distinction between TWERFs and TERFs, cause not every TWERF is a TERF.
I don’t think that’s a useful distinction. A looooooooot of TERFs claim to only be TWERFs (not using that word of course but claiming to support trans men and not trans women) but as explained above none of them are. You can not have the opinion ‘trans women do not belong in womens spaces, trans men do’ and be good to trans men. It’s not possible when you are denying the core of what trans men are. Hence every single TWERF is also transphobic to transmen.
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