You have to accept this if you want to be inclusive of nonbinary people.
You can’t just shove nonbinary people back into binary boxes. Nonbinary people who are woman-aligned aren’t “basically women,” and their experiences will still differ from women’s experiences in many ways. There are nonbinary people who aren’t aligned with either binary gender, or are aligned with both, or whose alignment varies depending on the topic. That’s because they’re nonbinary. You can’t reduce nonbinary people back to being binary, that defeats the point.
There are nonbinary people who are both women and men. It’s part of how they’re nonbinary. You can’t tell them to just pick one. Being partially a man doesn’t negate them being female, and being partially a woman doesn’t negate them being male. They’re both.
There are nonbinary people who are partially a binary gender, but not fully. They’re not any more binary than people who are both binary genders. If you want to exclude someone from your women’s space for being partially male, you should apply the same standard to someone who is partially neutrois. They are both equally not-women, and equally women.
It’s not enough to take traditionally binary communities and tack on “oh and nonbinary people can come in too.” You need to think about the implications. And you need to think about it through the lens of nonbinary people being neither men nor women, because that’s what nonbinary means.
I keep saying this
If you demand that non-binary people disclose what gender they were assigned at birth, you do not support non-binary people.
If you demand that non-binary people explain which gender they’re ‘most like’ to you, you do not support non-binary people.
If you make assumptions about a non-binary person’s body or transition needs, you do not support non-binary people.
If you accuse a non-binary person on having a certain kind of gender privilege based solely on their birth assignment, you do not support non-binary people.
If your spaces are for ‘transwomen and transfeminine’ and ‘transmen and transmasculine’, forcing non-binary people to choose, you do not support non-binary people.
If you treat non-binary narratives as either transman-light or transwoman-light, you do not support non-binary people.
If you speak over non-binary people about their identities because their complex contradictory narratives inconvenience you, you do not support non-binary people.
The list goes on.
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