The more I analyse authority in everyday interpersonal life the more I hate speaking with a tone of authority or professionality, especially when doing ‘public speaking’.
I use that tone sometimes when needed and I slip into it out of habbit but it is not how I want to speak to strangers or friends. I get much more pleasant connections with people and create much more space for sharing when I am openly awkard, fumbling and improvising as I go along.
And now some people try to give me advice on how to do public speaking, how to steady my voice and not flap my hands and I’m like “no, I can do that. I’ve done that. I can be a model public speaker. I don’t want to. I prefer not to be or sound like an authority. I wish society hadn’t taught me that’s what public speaking is about.”