do you think there’s much of an element of “choice” in one’s gender/sexuality? or is it more of a (for want of a better phrase) “born this way” kinda thing?

morphodyke:

you’re honestly just asking me to make metaphysical claims about free will. some people experience it as total choice, some as total determinism, and most as some combination of the two. which is the true internal narrative? or is there any kind of shared etiology? or are we all just animals adapting to a symbolic system we find ourselves trapped in on the level of social survival? i think its something we need to look at contextually as it arises and is relative to specific political situations. but it’s really bad form to stake your political claims too heavily on hypothetical processes and myths of origin, which i think is generally a way a lot of tlbg+ discourse has gotten derailed (forcibly, because of having to engage with the cishet gaze). 

Yes yes yes.

Like, I see my gender & sexuality in terms of potential. I can expand what I can be through exploration and self-reflection and analysing the impact of society on shaping my identity and desires but there are limits too.

That’s gonna be true for some other people besides me. But is the same true for everyone? Hell no.

‘Human nature’ does not exist.