The MAP community on tumblr isnt as pro- healing as they say tbh, many of them openly fantasize about children theyve seen in rl and one of the most popular MAPS HAS already offended and is blatantly honest about it, but everyone seems to treat him like another NOMAP. Frankly I don’t trust them worth a damn and you shouldn’t ease others into trusting them either, a community created around an attraction to kids is never going to be more good than harm.

I generally agree with you on everything except the last sentence. Of course  a MAP community is going to have very messed up parts and terrible people and of course you should approach it with caution. A large group of humans coming together to deal with desires they can not fulfill, is going to be incredibly flawed and in some parts unsafe. Whether the goal is healing, coping or non-harmful living or whatever, it is a messy process. There will be ugly parts. There will be people there without ethical intentions.
That is true of any space and it is certainly true in this space.

But that mess isn’t worse than forced silence. Just about nothing is as harmful, as eroding of any sort of moral compass as isolation and self-loathing.
Isolation creates circular thought processes and tunnel vision.
Isolation combined with shame and self-loathing is a super distructive
force. The dominant narrative in our culture is ‘if you experience attraction towards minors, you are inherently evil and you will at some point rape them’. If you hear that narrative over and over again without alternatives and without anyone to talk to, chances are you will eventually believe it (”I’m a monster, I might as well act on it”) or reject it entirely (”it’s all lies, I can reinvent my own morality”).

The truth, that a joyful ethical life is possible and that you have value as a person and are defined by your actions not your fantasies, needs to be out there and not just as a dogmatic statement, it needs to be a living conversation. It is vital. It is worth the mess.