I’m honestly kinda horrified that you all took “don’t reciprocate sexual advances from minors” and twisted it into “minors can do no wrong” to the point where adults can’t engage in sexual discussions between themselves, adults are acussed of pedophillia for being the victim of sexual harassment from a minor and “but im a minor” has become a get out of jail free card for any kind of harassment or bullying or abusive behaviour. So many minors on this site have no regard for people’s boundries or care at all about behaving appropriately. You’re all acting like the spoiled brats of middle aged parents who will threaten to have the teacher fired for giving a detention.
These kids doing this shit right now are going to become abusive adults. These kids are ALREADY abusive. And its scary how few people notice or care, and how many people are enabling this behaviour.
Minors need to be held accountable for their actions. Their age is a factor only with regard to how severely they should be punished and understanding why the situation occured in the first place.
like, I have a child, and I’m generally against removing internet access from children ever cus especially these days it’s a right, it’s necessary for how we live, especially once you hit your teen years.
And yet if she was behaving like a lot of u seem to think is ok for minors, I would take anything even theoretically capable of connecting to the internet away from her FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S SAFETY. This shit is not appropriate, and it’s getting out of hand.
I also think it’s important to remember that abuse doesn’t always straight lines of person with more power abuses person with less power.
I’m a cosplayer and involved in the cosplay is not consent campaign. There are so many stories of cosplayers being kissed or touched against their will by someone who is just ‘acting in character.
Ex)
‘I’m Grell, and Grell would ran up and kiss Sebastian’
(This happened to my ex boyfriend, male cosplayers have horror stories about girls who think because they’re a girl/because they’re a kid they can’t be creepy).
Never mind that you’re a person in a costume and you just ran up and kissed a total stranger…
And often times, you see this kind of misbehavior from younger fans who haven’t be taught that ‘that’s not ok’ and see it as just playing.
And if you’re an adult and we’re just touched or kissed by a middle schooler, you’re left feeling really gross because not only were you assaulted, you’re worried people will think you’re a predator for letting it happen.
If a minor doesn’t respect someone else’s boundaries and engages in sexual harassment or assault: it’s still sexual harassment and assault.
Yes, there are adults who prey on minors, just as there are men who prey on women, but that doesn’t mean that people who don’t have power over another regroup can’t be abusers. Women can hurt men. Minors can hurt adults.
“I also think it’s important to remember that abuse doesn’t always straight lines of person with more power abuses person with less power.”
yeah this is rly important to remember, and abusive people will leverage anything to get away with it. If they have less social power, they will use that to excuse their behaviour, that’s what abusive people do.
I have a lot of thoughts about how fucked up parenting is and I don’t believe in punishment as a solution to unwanted behavior in any situation.
But a lot in here is true even from a transformative justice approach. If we don’t want to subject children and teens to an ageist hierarchy (& I don’t), if we believe minors should be equal participants in conversations about justice (& I do), that includes not sheltering them from the harm done by their own actions.
When a young person shows a lack of respect for people’s boundaries, our response shouldn’t be ‘but they’re a minor’, it should be ‘let’s sit down and talk about this right now before they become an adult with even more social power who thinks this behavior is okay’.
See also: Keep as eye on the emergency exit to your social justice routine http://queeranarchism.tumblr.com/post/126612642508/keep-an-eye-on-the-emergency-exit-in-your-social
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