autumnhobbit:

i fully support people being able to vent

but i also firmly support a person’s right to say “hey, i really would rather not hear this right now” for any reason, so if you ever don’t want me to mindlessly ramble about how much my life sucks PLEASE feel free to tell me because i strongly think that helping someone deal with their problems should be VOLUNTARY

This is also an issue when you rant about oppression, especially if you rant to someone with more priviledge than you.

Before I rant to a cis friend about the transphobic shit I experienced today, I need to check whether they actually have the spoons for that right now because they genuinely care about me so it will effect them.