I can’t believe this needs saying again but…

Great: analyzing how sexism spreads the systematic idea that pussies are dirty and how, among other consequences, that results in a large number of cisgender men being uncomfortable eating pussy while being perfectly comfortable receiving a blowjob. 

Not great: demanding that those men immediately unlearn all of that, pressuring those men into a sex act they are not comfortable with in that moment, claiming that refusing that sex act would make them sexist.

Like, that’s rape.

I could write a whole broader post about how unlearning systematic ingrained things always has a learning process and if you’re not willing to support people through that imperfect progress because they’re not woke enough for you yet, you shouldn’t be hanging out with them at all. Just leave if you can‘t summon the empathy to let real change take place.

But let’s start with don’t rape people, okay?