gaylor-moon:

wow okay!!

Some of the tell-tale signs:

• Speaks about male subs with disdain.
• Gets angry that you ask about his identity and didn’t clock him as a Dom from a mile away.
• Into younger sub girls. ONLY younger girls.
• “We’re super consent aware here. No one has ever violated anyone’s consent here. (and those subs that say otherwise are lying)”.

• “All subs want Doms to push their boundaries. (I’m very consent aware)”
• *the contract*
• “If you don’t want what I want you’re just a vanilla prude”
• “If you were really into BDSM you’d like this.
  (I’m very consent aware)”

• “We were doing BDSM so it couldn’t have been rape. BDSM is never rape.”
• “My interest in skinny submissive feminine women who are smaller and younger than me is Born This Way.”
• “My name is Sir Master XTreme HrdCore McTop Dom. I do not have insecurity issues”
• Brags about the vanilla girls he talked into trying kink.
• “I’m a nice guy. Some subs just don’t know how to communicate about their boundaries

  (I’m very consent aware)”

• “Let me mansplain what your body just experienced in that spanking”
• Very very VERY into ‘helping’ the new girl explore the scene. Every damn time.
• “I can give you exposure therapy if you’re a Survivor. That therapy just happens to look exactly like everything that turns me on.”
• Friends with all the other straight male doms so he never gets kicked out (and the whole scene gets less and less safe by the day)
• The Official Organizer of the Munch (what better way to make sure you get to help every new girl explore the scene?)
• “My girlfriend and I are poly and I have multiple subs but my girlfriend can only date other subs / other girls”
• Aggressively demands appreciation of his expensive gear
• “My last girlfriend was a frigid vanilla bitch and you shouldn’t believe what she says about me
  (I’m very consent aware)” 
• “Did I mention how much I’m into safe, sane and consentual BDSM?”
• “Subs play hard to get and want you to keep pushing
  (I’m very consent aware)” 

And honestly, if you see this guy, don’t just avoid him, avoid that scene. The reason he’s still in that fucking scene is because rapists protect each other.

(And yes, that probably means avoiding most BDSM scenes because unfortunately they’re pretty often tailored to men like this. And they’ll stay that way until the way we treat kink changes and we stop sheltering Doms like this.)