Ugh, that sounds soooo farmiliar and it’s so frustrating.
How can all these seemingly smart activists that care about power structures and systematic oppression and rape culture and gas lighting and more have such a MASSIVE blindspot when it comes to BDSM?
We live in a society that tells one group of people from a very young age that it would be totally hot to rape someone, and tells another group from a very young age that if they get raped it’s because they were desired enough and at the same time it’s their own fault.
AND
We live in a society where a very large subset of people have rape fantasies.
HOW CAN YOU NOT SEE THOSE THINGS AS RELATED.
HOW CAN YOU SEE THAT AS UNPOLITICAL.
HOW CAN YOUR ANSWER BE TO UNCRITICALLY CELEBRATE REPRODUCTIONS OF RAPE CULTURE?
HOW CAN YOU THINK THAT A CHOICE WHICH HAS BEEN PRE-GROOMED TO SUCH AN EXTEND IS THE HEIGHT OF CONSENT.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL MY LOVELY RADICALS THAT THEY CAN’T SEE THE HUGE ELEPHANT IN THE PLAY ROOM.
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(Disclaimer: I have read, debated and blogged A LOT about BDSM. If you see this post and decide to send me a BDSM 101 post about how it’s ‘totally not about violating consent’ I will not be nice. So how about cutting out me as the rude middle man and starting here: http://rolequeer.tumblr.com/resources/ )
