Thoughts on fluidity in queer identities

notfuckingcishet:

When I talk about our sexuality and gender in terms of potential, fluidity and change, there’s always someone looking for clairity and certainty (or looking simply to mock me) who will say “Oh, so everyone is really bisexual and non-binary?”
And all I can say is: what a limited way to look at sexuality and gender. 

No, when I talk about fluidity and sexual potential, I mean the potential to be straight, bisexual and gay multiple times over the course of a lifetime. The potential to be allosexual, demisexual and asexual. The potential to be monosexual and polysexual. The potential to be male, female, non-binary, cross dresser, genderfuck, hypermasculine, butch, femme, and agender. The potential to be an asexual sexual lesbian bisexual transgender queer dragqueen all in one moment. The potential to experience all these different ways to relate to gender, to people, to intimacy, to sex, to connection.  
And I certainly don’t mean that we should all be on a constant exploration or that we should all try everything, only that we might, at any time, choose to do so, and that creates a constant state of potential to be something different from what we were.
When I talk about fluidity I mean you do not know what I will be tomorrow, or next year. And I’m not going to assume to know what you will be.

What queerness is at heart, and what simple ‘LGBT rights’ will never be, is fundamental uncertainty. The idea that anyone at any time might choose to identify differently from who they were yesterday, or might ignore identity all together and act outside the norms of heteronormativity and cisnormativity at any time. That terrifies people because it uproots what we thing we know about loyalties. If anyone may at any time change into something new, then anyone might at any time become a traitor to the systems that gave them power. That no label is fixed. That we may grow and chance, just as we now know that most of our brain is growing and changing our whole life, building new pathways. That since you do not know who I am or who I might become, you can never accurately estimate what I am capable of.