sqbr:
not to sound glib but it’s important to support “ugly” cripples, too. those of us who can’t or don’t want to dress up, do makeup, etc. those of us who aren’t conventionally attractive. those of us who don’t have an “aesthetic”
it’s easy to ooo and aah over disabled people who also model, who have perfect makeup all the time, who have a congruent aesthetic all the time- but able bodied people need to also give the same support too those of us who don’t always “look 100%.”
it’s not just with disability, either. conventionally attractive people are always recived better.
also don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a knock on anybody, it’s a knock on a society that thinks beauty = value. but that’s not that fault of any one person!
somebody who doesn’t have on good makeup, who isn’t dressed up- that person is just as valuable as a model.
Not just “not conventionally attractive” either. People with food stains, skin conditions, drool, ratty old clothes, unusually shaped faces or bodies. People who clearly haven’t shaved or had their hair cut or washed in a while. People who stim or don’t make eye contact or speak with a lisp or stutter or not at all. And people who are very fat, and other things that aren’t coming to mind right now.
Not all of us can manage “normal”, let alone dressed up. And the ones who can’t are usually the ones most in need of support.
(I usually can manage “normal”, albeit with a lot of energy I’d rather spend elsewhere. But I know what a difference it makes to how I get treated. This also ties in with gender presentation, race etc)
