“You can’t pick and choose which members of a minority to listen to.”

Oh yes you can.

Not in a ‘only choose the groups that are polite to allies and tell you what you want to hear’ sort of way.

But definitely in a ‘work with groups that allign to your own political background and ideals’ sort of way.

For example, if your basic thing is anarchism, you absolutely do not have to waste your time on racist homonationalist LGBT groups or pro-imperialism Jewish groups or neoliberal people of color. That’s a waste of time for everyone involved.

Find LGBT, Jewish, POC etc groups that approach injustice from more or less the same radical standpoint as you and learn from them, work with them, listen to them, including when you don’t like what they have to say about you.

(& like, don’t start working with them AFTER you realized your organisation has transphobia/antisemitism/racist/etc issues. Find them and involve them now. You’re stronger together.)